Review: Match.com Event

A few weeks ago my friend dragged me out to a Match.com event with her. Since I’m forever single, I figured I should really go and try and meet someone.

It was held at a Brewery. I love beer, so of course I’d love to meet someone who loves beer as well. And if I didn’t meet anyone, at least I’d enjoy some good beer, right?

The day began with a hilarious Uber ride in a swank Mercedes, quite possibly the nicest car I’ve ever been inside in my entire sad life. Of course, the driver got lost in the wilds of Etobicoke. Then, to make things more complicated, the entrance to the brewery was hidden in the back of the building, and we had to cruise around a strange industrial area until we found it.

We walked inside, arriving ten minutes before the event was supposed to start. The email said to be there right at 2 p.m., because the brewery tour would start exactly at 2!

Wrong.

There was nobody there. I was expecting someone from Match to be a host greeting us at the door and telling us what to do. But there was nobody there. So we went outside and hung out in the parking lot for a bit.

We decided to go back inside after awhile, and suddenly the bar area was packed! We had been sitting near the front entrance, so how did these people get here? Apparently they also got lost, and entered through the back door. Hilarious.

We stood by the back wall for a few minutes trying to figure out what to do. Eventually we put it all together and went up to the bar to get a name tag and our complimentary beer sampler. We took a seat at the large table in the middle and two men joined us. We introduced ourselves and talked about which beers we liked best. As this was our first Match event, we asked if they’d ever been to one before. They both said they go to Match events often when they don’t have any plans.

They were nice enough and I’m glad we managed to mingle a bit, which is the whole point of the event. I thought it was kinda sad that other people were just sitting alone. Trust me, I am the shyest person ever, but the whole point is to try to meet someone at a Match event.

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Eventually a brewery worker gathered us together and took us on a tour of the brewery. To be honest, I’ve toured a few breweries and they’re all kinda the same. This one was interesting though because it’s still an independent brewery and the small team share duties, everything from front desk admin stuff to sticking the labels onto the beer bottles. The tour guide was really cool and fun to listen to. (Was he single?)

After the tour, the group gathered again at the bar for another drink. Me and my friend hung around the bar and chatted with one of the guys we met, and then another guy joined our group. The conversation bored me as the men started talking about condo construction, and then I had to use the restroom.

When I came back, everyone was gone!

Everyone!

Ok, not everyone. But practically everyone from the event had left. The two guys we had been chatting with had also left. The only people left were my friend and another guy. Who somehow invited himself out for dinner with us.

Which fine, I was okay with. The whole point of the event was to meet someone. He had driven into the city from another suburb, so he probably didn’t want to go home right away.

He had a car, but we called an Uber to take us to the Bier Markt. Which ended up being only a short walk away. Really, we could have either used his car to drive five minutes over, or we could have walked.

We all ordered some food, had more drinks, and discussed how complicated dating is.

And then, that was it.

My verdict?

I don’t know. Was it worth it? Sure? I mean, it wasn’t super horrible. Nothing super awkward happened. Maybe if it was more organized, like with some ice breakers, it would have been easier to mingle? Although I guess the whole point of an unstructured event is for us adults to introduce ourselves.

But I found it weird that some people were just there, and just left so easily when it was over. Maybe they just didn’t see anyone worth introducing themselves to?

I still haven’t joined Match. I really should, but UGH dating is so hard.

Me and my friend made plans to attend two other events in March, but then she broke her arm and I sprained my neck.

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Conclusion: dating is HARD.

Result: I am STILL SINGLE.

 

How running commentary helps me with anxiety, driving and writing

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Running commentary is an amazing tool, not just for life, but for writing as well. I can’t remember who taught me this or when I started, but it’s something I do on a daily basis.

For Anxiety

I have this problem that my mind tends to wander and focus on negative thoughts. This happens when I’m waiting for the bus, walking during lunch, or even while at work! I start thinking about something bad that happened to me 10 years ago and how it’s ruined my life and how I can’t do anything right and it just keeps going and going until I’m all riled up and become anxious. Over absolutely nothing important.

 

One way to stay focused is to remain grounded in the moment. And I do that by observing every single detail around me.

Example while waiting for the bus: The man beside me is old and wearing a tan leather coat. His pants are tucked into his boots. A young woman stands on my other side with the hood of her Canada Goose jacket pulled up over her head. I can hear someone’s headphones blaring music, it sounds like really good techno music. A crack runs across the pavement in the bus platform. The tree across the platform is losing it’s leaves. A red bird sits on the highest branch. It tweets every few minutes. And here comes the bus.

The key is to constantly observing your surroundings. It works to stop my mind from wandering towards miserable thoughts.

While Driving

My driving instructor taught me running commentary to help me calm down while driving. It’s the simple act of observing everything around me in the car and keeping me focused on the cars around me. Instead of being a passive driver, I become an active driver.

Example: I’ve turned into the street. I am in the left lane, now I am switching lanes into the right lane. I glance into my rearview mirror and there’s a red car. He accelerates and I signal and merge after he’s passed. As I approach the intersection the light is green and the way is clear. A pedestrian stands at the corner but doesn’t cross. The car in front of me is slowing down, I might change lanes. Check the left lane but no, it’s full, I’ll just stay here.

And Finally, Writing.

Using running commentary keeps me always observing my surroundings. This helps while writing to ground a scene with key details. You don’t have to throw in every single detail about the bus platform, but one or two main details will help the reader visualize the scene in their minds. It’s also really helped me while describing characters, whether it’s the tan coat or the socks being tucked into the socks. Key details can say a lot about a character’s personality.

I know that I need to stop overthinking, and I’m working on it through positive affirmations and mindfulness meditations, but in the meantime, I’m trying to use it to my advantage.

Laughter Yoga: Where have you been all my life?

I have just discovered the most incredible thing in the existence of the world.

LAUGHTER YOGA.

It’s where an instructor leads you through a series of laughter exercises. Just forcing yourself to laugh can make you feel that much better.

I am definitely 100% signing up for this. Just watching the video is making me laugh so hard I am crying.

This is definitely what I need in my life.

Welcome to Mercury Retrograde!

Ever notice that four times in a year, all communications go haywire? The subway stops running (moreso than usual), you accidentally reply-all saying YAS to afterwork drinks, or your date tells you he wants to see you again but you interpret it to mean he doesn’t want to see you again, and then months later he says you ghosted him when you thought it was his fault?

Well, my friends, that is called Mercury Retrograde. It’s when four times a year for several weeks, mercury, the mighty ruler of communication, travel and electronics, appears to be traveling backwards in the sky. And it is not friendly.

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Me, during mercury retrograde

The final mercury retrograde of 2017 runs from December 3rd to 23rd. Perfect! Let’s end this already shitty year with a disastrous bang.

It’s already hit me so far. On Thursday night, I was driving my brand new 2017 Chevy Cruze when something popped up on my display.

“Why is my car telling me to check my oil when I literally just changed my oil?” I asked.

My friend leaned over. “Oh, no.” She covered her mouth with her hand. “That’s the Check Engine light. That’s not good.”

My heart sank. I literally bought a new car in May for the sole reason to avoid the dreaded reoccurring Check Engine light that kept popping up on my 1992 Dodge Colt. This was supposed to mean no more problems. So how can I be six months into owning a new car, and already be having an issue with it?

So, the next day, I ditched out of work and brought it to the dealer. Which is the worst, since the dealer has the same coffee machine as we have at work, so the coffee tastes like being at work.

I was ready to yell and scream about how my brand new car should not be having problems. But they were really friendly, and they fixed it.

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Life would be better if dogs were mechanics

Now I’m still worried that I may have bought a lemon, and that I’m probably going to be screwed after the warranty is up. Hopefully this was just a manufacturing defect that was caught early, and it will be smooth sailing from here.

This is just the start of Mercury Retrograde….let’s hope nothing else wild happens.

Stay safe out there and make sure you double-check any emails you write!